If I'm going to give lessons, then I might as well give some confessions..... since I'm quite sure that everyone loves reading about other people's shortcomings. The definition of a 'Super-Mom' is yet to be defined. Since I'm often referred to as one, I might as well shed some light into how life actually is. Some of these will be funny and you might be able to relate to them. Others will be more serious.... and you might be able to relate to them. Just grab a glass of wine and chill.... and read on.
#1 - I can't stand hearing other moms complain about their kids - especially if it's a mom of a single child (as in they have one kid). I'm not going to say that life is easy, but why on earth would you ever come to me to complain about how much your three year old gets into each day. We can trade for a day and I'll almost guarantee that you will never complain again.... to anyone.
#2 - I will never be caught up on housework. Even on the best of cleaning days, there is still something left to do. Laundry, dishes, and vacuuming seem to be never-ending. Any day when I can get anything else done, I feel that is a huge accomplishment! Don't get me wrong, we aren't living in a pig pen.... We have five people and a dog living in somewhat cramped quarters, so our house is very lived in.
#3 - My kids and I would live in our pajamas if that were possible. They love them. I love them. Why change? If we aren't going anywhere (other than to the grandparents), the kids are rarely in anything but pajamas. Life is so much simpler when you can live in pajamas.
#4 - I struggled a lot internally by being defined as 'just a mom'. Everyone who knows me KNOWS that I am ALWAYS busy. I always have something on the go. Since becoming a mom, I feel that I need the structure of being out of the house at work sometimes to maintain my sanity. Part-time makes me feel the most balanced. On top of that, I often lend myself out a lot. Planning events and helping on committees are things that I enjoy immensely, but they tend to gobble up a lot of time. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE being with my kids. I just find that I can mentally be a better mom if I have time to myself. I wish I could be a mom who was 100% satisfied with just being at home with the kids all the time. However, that is just not me. It's even still hard to admit. I just need to be able to get away sometimes.
#5 - Sometimes, I get frustrated with my kids. I might yell once in a while. I might leave them screaming on the outside of the washroom while I pee. I might let them have a tantrum on the floor for ten minutes because I shut the fridge. It's a part of parenting. Sometimes, kids know just what button to push. .... and that is ok. 'Super-Moms' can have bad moments too.... it's what you do afterwards that makes up for it. Being quick to apologize, give hugs and admit that I'm wrong teaches me that I'm not perfect.... and I think that it's important that my kids know that NO ONE is perfect.
I'm sure that I can add to this list. I'm sure that I will in the future. Being a mom is hard. Just be the best mom that you can be. :)
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