I've had many encounters over the last month that make me shake my head and wonder (often in my head at the moment... and then aloud later) 'WHAT THE EFF IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE!?'
I get it. I'm overweight at the moment. I just had a baby two months ago. What is your excuse? I also get that since I work with the public, I am scrutinized more - and by many more people. What I don't like is the fact that people's comments are starting to get to me. I already feel yucky sometimes, especially in this heat and humidity. Really though, I don't know why the extra 25 pounds I have on is so concerning to so many.
The comments started when she was about a month old. The joys of it being that many are from people that I don't even know. The rest coming from people that I hardly know.
'How are you going to get all of that weight off?'....... <face palm> Honestly, I plan to eat like a pig and do nothing, but hope for the best. Seriously?? I'm not a heifer. I obviously am well aware that I have extra weight at the moment. How about I worry about it in a few more months if nothing fits STILL... I have had several people ask me this. I didn't know that my weight was so important to so many.
'So, when are you planning to have the baby?'....... <visibly irritated yet still trying not to show it>... I had her two months ago, so not any time soon?? How am I even supposed to respond to that? At least ask how the baby is doing or something after asking this question.... I made it my personal goal never to assume someone was pregnant, as sometimes they may have just had a baby or, hey, maybe they are just overweight.... and honestly, it is none of my business either way.
'You're pregnant again? Already?' ..... <clenching fists> No, dipshit, I just haven't lost all the babyweight yet. Really??? You know that I JUST had a baby. Even if you MIGHT be joking. Take a hike. Off a cliff.
.... and my new personal favourite.........
A random stranger was walking by this morning. Norah was in the front yard watching a Monarch butterfly. Andy and Everett were helping me to bring in the garbage cans and bring out the recycle. This man stops to look at Norah's butterfly, looks at me and says, 'so, what do you have in there? 20 kids?' Thankfully, he meant in the house, but, still!!!! I smiled it off and told him that no I did not have twenty kids. I have four. I smiled some more as he started to walk away <glared daggers at his back as soon as he passed>.
I don't know when people started to feel so comfortable to comment on other people's personal matters - at least to their face!! I know that I had many comments while pregnant and working as well. People would tell me things that would make me cringe daily. Why do I have to smile it off and be polite. They are being rude! I would just love to tell them what I think of their weight or their spending habits or their personal matters! Seriously, people, it's baby weight. Get over it. It's not fun; however, it is expected after having a baby. At least, keep your comments to yourself! I have enough on my plate as it is. I don't have the energy to devote to polite responses anymore <or the desire... I desire to punch people in the face when they are unreasonably rude>.
I LOVE that people look at me and just see the extra baby weight. They don't see what else is going on with me. I am trying to commit to the gym. I am trying to commit to eating regularly, as in changing this two big meals a day routine that I have for the better. I am trying to keep up with a newborn, two toddlers and a preschooler. I am trying to keep my house in order. I'm trying to keep up with restaurant tasks <yes, I went back to work about a month after having her. Yes, I'm enjoying it. Yes, I do have my priorities straight>. I'm trying... trying... and trying some more. Most of all, I'm trying to be healthy while doing all of that and dealing with everything else in life. The best that I can do, for myself and my family, is to try. Everything will work out fine for us.... maybe not so much for you, if you don't learn to keep your opinions on how I should look two months after having a baby to yourself.
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